We’ve all heard about the hashtag #girlboss. It’s all over instagram and was made popular by Sophia Amoruso, the controversial CEO and founder of Nasty Gal (an online vintage clothing store). Her book, #girlboss, sparked this online hashtag and movement. While intended for a positive purpose, #girlboss is only inclusive of one type of woman, leaving out a good amount of women who make this world go round.
Girlboss: A confident, capable woman who pursues her own ambitions instead of working for others or otherwise settling in life.
I’ve used the hashtag numerous times on instagram posts, but it wasn’t until this week that it really started to bug me. I couldn’t figure out why at first. I’m only 22, I own my own business, I do what I love every day… so why do I not feel like a #girlboss. That’s when I realized just why #girlboss had been on nerves.
When Steven and I got married, I told him that I could never be a housewife. Not because I saw anything wrong with it, but because I LOVE what I do. I really truly enjoy working and wanted him to know that I was not going to give that up. Well, this past week, we’ve been joking that I’ve fully embraced being a housewife. The truth is, I’m in my slow season at work and Steven is in his busy season. He’s working 12-16 hours a day, meaning I’m spending some more time at home just to make sure the house stays clean, laundry stays done, and there’s food in the fridge. It also means that he is working nights and I’m not quite sure what to do after work. (I may be binge watching Law & Order and baking A LOT…) Steven is super supportive of whatever I want to do, but also is loving joking about how the tables have turned.
After all this joking, I really started thinking about my #girlboss status… In all honesty, I felt like because I wasn’t working on something regarding my business, I had lost my #girlboss title. Insecure me thought that I was losing everything I had worked so hard for because I was spending a good chunk of time supporting my husband and doing chores. I mean… you never see anyone saying #proudhousewife #Ilovelaundry #Dishesarethebest. It’s just not as glamorous as owning your own company.
But, if this past week has taught me anything, it’s that being at home is HARD WORK. We don’t have kids yet, but keeping the bills paid, laundry done, dinner cooked, and the house clean is not an easy task when you also work. (I kept finding myself breaking a sweat from all the vacuuming.) In all honesty, sitting at my desk with my coffee seemed like a dream in those moments. So what I’m wondering, is why we only glorify women who run their own companies? Why don’t we give props to all of the moms and wives who support their husband’s companies or careers, the women who work 2 jobs, are single moms, are nurses or doctors or police officers, who put their dreams aside and their family first?
I’m tired of feeling like putting my family first is me “settling”. I’m tired of feeling guilty for it. I’m all for women being successful and following their dreams, but why do I feel guilt when I choose to put my family or my marriage first?
I don’t have an answer or idea of how to change this… but I did want to let other women know that they’re not alone in feeling this way. Just because you don’t own your own company or make millions, doesn’t mean that you’re any less of a boss at whatever you choose to do. We all have a purpose in life and for some people it’s being a mom or a housewife. For some it’s being a teacher or a nurse. For some it IS running that multi million dollar company like a BOSS. Whatever it is, know that you’re a strong and powerful woman and I commend you for doing what you feel called to do, no matter how much money you make, how many people you employ or don’t employ, or how glamorous the job is. You serve a unique purpose and I think that’s pretty boss.
Well, the guys have sat down to watch the Rose Bowl, so I finally have a moment to escape and write about this past year. I decided against the “Instagram Top 9” because of everything that happened this past year. This year of transformation just couldn’t be shown on an instastory. The person who started 2018 was so broken, hurt, and in need of approval of everything she did. She searched for love in the wrong people and hurt people along the way. But this year was truly a year of transformation, self love, loving others, and accepting others love. It was a beautiful journey that taught me to let go and let God. To cherish the moments that you are given in life. AND to let yourself be HAPPY. To stop reliving the past and ENJOY the life that you have. The good, the bad, and the good that comes from the bad.
So… here are my top 2018 moments.
My year started out with me moving back to NJ on a whim after graduating college, wondering where God was leading me, and trusting that He had something good. Boy, did he ever!!!
In January, I rested, took a much needed break, and was able to renew my relationship with Steven after years of being long distance.
In February, we celebrated the first Valentines Day together that nobody had to fly to the other for. It was a beautiful thing.
In March, I was able to spend good time with my family. I even got a new roommate… my little brother! Funny how life works out…
In April, I said goodbye to Bubba, the F150, and hello to the nameless SUV (my first big adult purchase). I will always miss Bubba, however my wallet does not.
In May, we went on a week long tour up through NY to Canada. We played for amazing people, laughed a lot, created amazing memories, and I saw a part of the country I had never been to.
In June, I said goodbye to my little brother (and the roommate that caught my blender on fire) as he departed on a cross country road trip on his way to college. Tears were definitely shed.
In July, I FINALLY performed a hometown show with Jo Dee Messina.
I also turned 22…
AND may have gotten engaged. It was a very busy month!
August was full of few pictures and LOTS of wedding planning.
Then there was September… when I finally got to call my boyfriend of 5 years my HUSBAND. (Still getting the hang of that word…) So many tears. So much happiness. So much that led up to that moment that made it even more special. He’s truly been my partner in life and now it’s official.
If you had told us in January that we would be getting married in September, we both would have laughed. We grew a lot in just a few months. By ourselves and together. 2017 was a really hard year for both of us and that required some healing. What can I say, God does amazing things when we trust Him.
October was full of going to everyone else’s weddings and so enjoying being newlyweds!
In November, I became a FabFitFun ambassador, re-strategized my business, and took a month off of music to plan for 2019.
In December, we were able to experience our first Christmas as a married couple and it was EXHAUSTING. We both played 4 Christmas Eve services, grabbed 4 hours of sleep, then jetted off to Florida to see family, and finally take that honeymoon.
The rest was SWEET. (That’s coming from someone who hasn’t taken more than 3 days off in 6 years…) In all honesty, I collapsed in that pool chair and slept. It was so amazing that I think I might not wait so long until I do it again.
Now, we’re sitting in our apartment. The apartment that we made into our “home” in 2018 and I cannot believe all that happened in 2018. On top of this monthly recap, I was also able to…
…use my God given abilities as a worship leader. I don’t think I’ve ever felt so at home on a stage.
I was also able to get past my fears, love myself, and even start modeling.
Just a few days before getting married, I also got baptized to publicly show how much God transformed my life. 2017 was mess. One day I’ll open up about the pain and hurt I was able to overcome, but today I am CELEBRATING. Because 2018 God truly transformed my life and I can NOT wait to see what he has in store for me as a daughter, wife, sister, and friend in 2019. Happy New Year everyone!
Is it really worth it?
I’ve seen these boxes all over my instagram for the past few years. I have always wondered if it was really worth the hype and if it was worth the money. I decided to finally take the plunge and try it out for myself.
If I’m being honest, upon opening the box it felt like Christmas morning. I couldn’t wait to see which goodies were in my individualized box. Some of the products are the same in every box, however some products are different. Depending on your level of membership, you can choose which ones make it into your box, but I loved not knowing and having the surprise factor.
Here is what was in my box!
I’m loving these scents! I normally wouldn’t spend this much money on essential oils. (I normally buy mine from Target.) However, you really could smell the quality in these oils. They are 100% natural pure grade and it shows!
This may be my favorite product from the box. I always struggle with bags under my eyes. No matter how much sleep I get, they always seem to be there. These eye masks worked like actual magic. I kept them on for 5 minutes and there was already a noticeable difference. I can’t wait to see the difference after multiple uses.
I’ve used a lot of Moroccan Gold Series products and have absolutely LOVED them all. They have all helped repair my colored and heat damaged hair. Because it is made with pure moroccan argan oil, the only thing I had to watch was how much I used it. Using these oil based products too frequently increased the amount of times that I had to wash my hair in a week. I would still highly recommend.
If you’re like me, you’re hesitant to put anything on your lips without know what is really in it. This brand of lipsticks are wonderful. They’re phenomenal quality and made without parabens, sulfates, and phthalates. It has an expensive price tag, but well worth it.
Y’all are gonna want to jump on this mask fast because it is limited edition! My skin gets SO dry in the winter and this mask helped bring my skin back to normal in only 5 minutes!!!
I use dry shampoo way more than I am willing to admit… It’s something everyone should have. I use it to freshen up my hair after a long flight, during a busy week when I just don’t have time, or on newly washed hair that is too soft to style. I’ve never used such expensive dry shampoo, so I did not know what to expect. Let me tell you. This dry shampoo was so light, I couldn’t even tell that my hair was dry shampooed. It didn’t give it that gross “whitish” tint, but left it looking fresh and natural. Due to the price tag, this is not something I’m going to buy regularly, but I was very surprised by the quality. I didn’t think dry shampoo could work that well.
I would be lying if I said I was a makeup guru… I’m just blessed to have a best friend that is a makeup artist. But in all honesty, this palette is beautiful. The tones are the perfect balance of natural and sparkle. I love eye shadows that I can wear during the day as well as make pop for that night out. This palette is perfect for that. I’s also a wonderful size for traveling when you don’t want to bring that huge travel case like me.
Available in two colors (as shown above). I was raised very frugal. Never in my life would I spend $49 on a throw. BUT HOLY COW IS THIS SOFT!!! It is so lightweight, but keeps me unbelievably warm on the couch. (I may just have to splurge for another!) This is also a GREAT gift idea.
I’ll be honest. I’ve never used a highlighter pencil before… Let me tell you. This was revolutionary. I was worried about how well it was going to blend, but I think it actually worked better than the powder type. I’m also a sucker for champagne colored anything. The only thing that I will say about this is I wish it sparkled more, however it is good for every day wear.
Well, that’s it for my fabfitfun box. I was worried about whether or not I would really enjoy this box. Turns out, I LOVED it. I used all of the products and really enjoyed the high quality of each product. There was nothing that I didn’t enjoy.
All in all, the products I received totaled $321 if bought individually. With fabfitfun, I received all of this for $49.99. If you’re interested in trying out a fabfitfun box or gifting one this year, use my link here and the code “SANTABABY” for $10 off your box.
Hope you have enjoyed this review!
I want to love my body and myself as much as my husband does. That’s right. I said it. Let me be really honest with you for a few moments…
This morning I stood in the mirror beating myself up for the 10 lbs of newlywed weight I gained. (I partially blame hubby for taking me out on so many dates – love you honey!)
After a flood of negative thoughts rushed through my mind, without knowing, hubby found me in the closet getting ready for the day, wrapped his arms around me, and started telling me how beautiful I was as he kissed my makeup less face and ran his hands through my hair that at that point resembled a birds nest. He does this every morning without fail. I don’t even think he realizes he does it. He does it because he loves me. But it got me thinking, what if I loved my body and myself as much as he does?
What if I wasn’t focused on being thin, but focused on giving my body what it needed – whether it be rest, a bubble bath, a good meal, or simply just grace after eating that slice of chocolate cake. What if I 100% accepted and even loved all of my imperfections? Somehow my husband can, but why can’t I? Now, I personally have pretty good self-acceptance, but something stops me when I see my scars from numerous surgeries or my stretch marks on my legs. Yet, somehow, my husband actually LOVES them.
One time… actually, no. MANY times I asked him how he could love something like stretch marks or scars. He simply answered “because it’s you”. He continued on to talk about how every stretch mark and scar makes me who I am today. (This was also one of the many moments when I knew this was the man I was going to marry!)
Those scars I have, they remind me of the pain I felt from those surgeries. But, they also remind me that it is because of those surgeries that I can run, jump, and dance my way through a wonderful life. It’s really all how you look at it. Sure, I’m reminded that it was a painful experience, but I’ve chosen not to dwell on it. Instead, I dwell on the outcome of those surgeries.
Today, in an effort to change my perception of myself, I self loved a bit. I wore an outfit that made me feel beautiful. I bought myself Starbucks at 3pm in the afternoon just cuz. I took 30 minutes out of my day to work out. I’m paying attention to what my body needs throughout the day. And now… I’m getting a glimpse of what my husband sees…AND I’m loving it. I think I may try this everyday.
The other day I went to Costco, while hungry. (Disclaimer: NEVER a good idea.) I ended up buying an outrageous amount of pineapple and couldn’t possibly eat it all before it went bad. There’s not a lot of recipes that use pineapple other than smoothies, so I decided to whip up some pineapple chicken in hopes that I could put that pineapple to good use,
When it comes to cooking, I’m no master. I like dishes that are easy to cook with minimal ingredients. I was so surprised how fast and easy this recipe was.
I first took two chicken breasts, cut them up into bite sized pieces, and cooked them on the stove top. I like to use coconut oil most of the time, but I’ll occasionally use olive oil as well. Once they were finished cooking, I added in about a cup of fresh pineapple (with a little bit of pineapple juice), also cut into bite sized pieces. After the pineapple, I added a cup of already steamed broccoli. Once that cooks for a minute or two, I added in the sauce. For the sauce, I kept it simple. I combined 2 tablespoons of tamari (gluten free soy sauce) with 2 tablespoons of honey. Once you pour in the sauce, let it simmer in the pan for a minute or two. Serve with cooked white rice and additional fresh pineapple for a bit of extra flavor.
What I love about this dish is you can make it a bit different every single time. Sometimes I add in a bit of teriyaki sauce or some sesame oil to change it up a little bit. This is definitely a recipe that doesn’t require exact measurements, but is something you can doctor to your exact tastes. (Luckily, it also makes it difficult to mess up!)
Serves: 2-3 people
- 2 chicken breasts (cut into bite sized pieces)
- 2 cups of fresh pineapple (1 cup to be cooked with the chicken and 1 cup for garnish)
- 1 cup of steamed broccoli
- 2 tbsp tamari
- 2 tbsp honey
- 1 tbsp teriyaki sauce (optional)
- Cut up chicken breasts into bite size pieces and cook in skillet for about 4-5 minutes or until thoroughly cooked
- Add 1 cup of pineapple to the skillet (with a few tablespoons of pineapple juice if possible)
- Add 1 cup of steamed broccoli to the skillet. Let cook for 1-2 minutes
- Add in sauce (2 tbsp tamari, 2 tbsp honey, optional 1 tbsp teriyaki)
- Let simmer for 1-2 minutes
- Serve over steamed white rice and garnish with leftover fresh pineapple
I hope you try and enjoy this delicious health conscious and super easy recipe. Let me know your thoughts in the comments.
If you are anything like me, the winter months are really rough on your skin. I have combination skin, but you wouldn’t know that in the winter because my skin gets SOOO dry. I’m constantly applying chap stick and exfoliating to try to combat what the weather does to my skin. This winter, I found some wonderful products that do wonders to help me keep that soft, smooth skin all year long.
Skinfix Foaming Clay Cleanser – $15
I’m obsessed with this cleanser. I wash my face with it prior to putting on my makeup and at night after taking off my makeup. My face felt noticeably softer after only one use! It is a soft clay that starts to foam when you apply it to your face. Just make sure you apply it to damp skin. Dry skin or overly wet skin do not work as well with this product. It is also awesome because it is made of 99% all natural ingredients! As someone with lots of allergies to chemicals, I love knowing what I am putting on my skin. It is dermatologist recommended, allergy tested, and pH balanced. It also contains NO sulfates, synthetic fragrance, soy, gluten, dairy, dyes, parabens, or phthalates. Definitely worth a try! I’m hooked.
Skinfix Eczema Soothing Body Cream – $20
I’ve always struggled with eczema on my arms since I was a little girl, however I use this cream for so much more than just my arms. I got hooked on it after seeing how smooth it made my arms this winter, so I decided to try it on my legs as well. Let me tell you, it works wonders!!! I was getting self conscious of my legs at the gym because my legs were so dry. A few uses of this cream at night and my legs are back to being super soft! Because it is an eczema cream, it is clinically proven to relieve itching and irritation that is caused by both eczema and dry skin. It is 98% natural and contains NO fragrance, steroids, hydrocortisone, gluten, soy, parabens, or phthalates.
e.l.f. Lip Exfoliator in Brown Sugar – $3
Everyone knows I love to do dark, dramatic or matte lips. Both of those are very hard to do when your lips are cracked. Dark colors and matte lipsticks show EVERYTHING! I found the miracle product to fix it though. AND it is only $3. Its a lip stick form, but it is actually a scrub. I apply it prior to putting on my makeup, leave it on for about 5 minutes while rubbing my lips together, and then wipe it off. Your lips will look so much healthier and a lot smoother. I still use chap stick every day on my lips, but this exfoliator is the real magic. I have no clue how I lived without it for so long!
I hope you enjoyed reading about my winter beauty essentials. If you try them out, I would love to hear your thoughts!
(I was not paid to promote any of these products. Just really love how well they work!)